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In the UK ?? x due to there tourism rising during summer months with holiday visitors what impact does this have on the local people??x

I am not looking to get rich, just to supplement my income. Or maybe eventually making an at home job my one source of income. I would love to get into something along the lines of a travel agent, but dealing mainly with cruises. Right now I live in an apt. so I don’t have an "office" space to work out of. I am an asst. manager in fast food, so I work alot of crazy hours, but I can find time to work on the computer during the week. Any information or advice from someone that’s doing at home work would be appreciated, especially if anyone knows how to get started in the travel agent industry. I am open to other ideas though. I’m just not sure where to start.

I am soooooooooo LOST. The tension between my wife and my parents has gone too far. It doesn’t matter what I do, NOTHING can open my parent’s eyes and minds to really get to know my wife and accept her. We have been married for 5 years now and have a 2-year old beautiful daughter together. Right now the only thing keeping us together is my daughter. Both my wife and I have gone through so much stress to this day and just can’t deal with any of this B.S. anymore thrown at us by my side of so called “family”. My dad has always been extremely negative and my mom never accepted my wife from day 1. They have both constantly tried to push my wife and I away from the rest of the family and tell lies to everyone else about us. When I confronted my dad about his actions and negative attitude towards my wife I told him how him and my mom are ruining my life and marriage, he replied “You never had a good marriage to begin with. You’re just too dumb to see it. She will leave you one day”. This was the last stab he could give me because I NEVER want to see him again.

My wife immigrated to United Stated ONLY because of me. She is well educated, smart, beautiful, hard working, extremely respectful and a great family person. What more can they want or expect of her? The person I’ve called “DAD” for the past 32 years tell me that she married me only to come to U.S., that she will leave me once she gets her green card (which she got 3 years ago), then he said she will leave me once she becomes a citizen (which she became yesterday). It seems like they are trying to push her out of my life just so they can look in my face and say “We told you so”. They know I have a good life, successful, happy, we travel all the time, and try to enjoy life (only if they let us).

There has been many months on and off that we stopped seeing my parents or talked to them, maybe 6 months at a time. Then for some reason we go back and try to work things out. God knows how many times I have talked to them in hopes of trying to resolves things. I’ve talked to them alone and at times I’ve asked for help from my younger sister and brothers. Nothing works. They don’t even care or miss their only grand daughter. I’m going crazy and can loose my mind any second. Most of all I feel sad for my 2 year old daughter. What has she done wrong to be stuck in such a dysfunctional family and situation like this? My wife told my parents that they are never welcomed to our house anymore. The next day my dad told me that we are not to ever go their house anymore either. There is not reasoning with them and absolutely no logic. Worst of all I just found out that all my married life and the fights between us has been shared with everyone else in the family (their sides only). No wonder everyone was backing away from us and outcasting my family and I. What should I do? I am soooooooooo hopeless, helpless and feel that I have LOST.
Thank you all for your comments. Just to add a few more things….. I’ve always been an advocate of having a strong and loving family, working on family relations, outings, etc. I was always the ONLY one who organized trips, picnics and events to do together as family. After we all apparently made up after the last big fight we took a trip to Puerto Vallarta for vacation. Knowing how much my mom wanted to go there one day and the fact that we had a large suite my wife asked me to invite my mom to join us on our vacation so we can all have fun together. So we bought her a ticket and had her join us the next day for the next 5 days when we all came home together. We had a great time but my mom never even thanked my wife. To make it worse she told my wife "God must love me so much that made you decide to invite me on your vacation". All she could’ve said is a Thank you. We are not religious at all or anything either.
We always took my parents on some trips with us, took my mom to Vegas, etc. all in hopes of trying to work on the relationship and them getting to know my wife as the person who she REALLY is and for them to try and let go of their own perceptions and negative pre-judgments. Anyway…. NOTHING has worked. Anything that has happened or anytime my parents needed help even financially we have been the first ones to respond. The absolute worse part is that we have no other family here. My wife only has me and our daughter. I only have 3 uncles, 2 brothers, 1 sister and my parents. :( We have no one else in the family to even ask to step in and help us with this situation a little bit.

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