I found some good deals on kayack and also how do these travel sites work ? What money will I owe the hotel when I check in ?

I need any good deals, or advice on good hotels. I m lookging to go for a weekend the 2nd week of June. We want to stay somewhere reasonably priced, on the boardwalk, someplace that migh have coupons, or know of where i can get discounts on rates or added discounts on travel.food. anythign you can help me with is appreciated. I have never been so the more detail on whats good and whats not is best. thanks in advance!

The flights for Europe are very expensive per person and I know some people find good deals… do any of you know how can I visit Europe at a cheaper price?

I have been married for 14 years. We have 2 beautiful daughters and 1 son.

Here’s the problem though, I HATE my wife! I cannot stand her! As far as I know, she has never cheated on me (except when we started seeing each other before it became official), nor have I cheated on her.

There is NO other woman involved, make no mistake!! But I do loathe my wife! I just wish I can get away and live on my own – with a goldfish maybe.

Problem is, she is fat (300lbs), incredibly lazy and always depressed. I can have an excellent day at the office, close a few good deals, but when I get home, it is as if she has this poisoned aura that kills me.

Her depression is a long-standing issue. I once had a bout with depression, to which she just replied to get over it, she is fed up of me being depressed. But she’s been depressed for years – and expects my continued support. I do volunteer work, try help others, she just focusses on her own lamentations. She blames everyone for things gone wrong and going wrong in her life. Whenever I dare open my mouth to eve disagree with something, she twists it so that somehow, it is MY fault! It is incredible. TO date, she has caused over £1000 damage to my car, due to her wreckless driving, but if I say one word or question her about it, I AM IN TROUBLE for it!??!?!?

She weighs 300lbs, like I said. I know life isn’t about looks, but come on! I am nauseated by the sight of her, as well as her smell!

We live close to her office, (300 yards) – but she expects me to DRIVE her the 300 yards to and from work each day. Then I get on with my commute. BTW, her office is in the OPPOSITE direction to which I travel and she works different hours, so I have to lock up the house and do said drive especially!

I have to see that the kids are ready for school, I do ALL the cooking, most of the laundry, cleaning, tidying, housework etc. After I pick her up from work and drive home, she sits her fat behind on the sofa, demands dinner. Mind, I also had a tough day at work. Then I have to feed the pets, do dinner, do dishes (she uses disposables instead of cleaning dishes). I get up if one of the twins cries at night, if the fall or get hurt, I run to them, kiss them better, comfort them. I play with them, she is ever too lazy. I drive her to all her social activities and then wait in the car for her for hours.

She just sits. Occasionaly, I muster the courage to ask her to make a cup of tea. She sighs, does it half heatedly and goes to sit again. Our once or twice in 2 months sex life is dead as well. She has so coldly rejected me so many times, I have lost interest! If we do, do it, she just lies there like a beached whale. I do all the "passion work".

I’m fine all week, because I am at work, my manager, colleagues and I get on well. I recently signed a great contract, which made office-life great. But once she comes home, I get edgy, I am agressive, irritable with the girls and generally unpleasant.

Obviously, I cannot get a divorce, since A) I am Catholic and it is forbidden and B) What example will that set for the kids? It’s for them that I am staying in this cancerous marriage that is poisoning my heart and soul!

I often fantasize about suicide. Last week, I stood with the knife blade on my wrist, but being too much of a coward, put it down.

What am I doing wrong? Obviously, I am NOT doing enough for her and I am not a good enough father for my children (she said so).

So, how can I be a better husband and father? Where and why am I failing the family so badly??
WOW!! Thanks for all your answers so far. She IS on depression meds. 2 years ago, she thought she’d lose weight, so I took a night job (on top of my already busy work week) to pay for her diet. She did it, lost some weight, then picked it all up again! I was working 80 hours a week for this!

She claims she loves me, but I cannot see or feel it!

If I even dare mention that I want to go out with my friends, I get a cold shoulder.
OH, and I mentioned marriage counselling, but she was puzzled and didn’t think we need it!
If we did get divorced, I would leave with only a few very special posessions. THough I feel she cannot possibly look after the twins and our boy, I cannot take the kids from her! It would kill her!

I do not want to hurt her, but I cannot live in this house any longer! I am dying!
She wasn’t always 300lbs. There was a time when she wasn’t like this – emotionally or physically.
Angelonius, I don’t expect her to do everything – I DO IT!! Just for once though, it would be nice if she did something out of her own for me. And yes, having to drop everything to drive her 300 yards to work is a bit much.

I am glad you have a great husband (obviously better than I am). I have tried and tried all the things mentioned. I am not a shallow jerk! But it would be nice if we went out and she made at least SOME effort with herself!
WOW Ladyren. She has in fact, told me she’d rather us not have sex and encouraged me a number of times to "sort myself out" if I felt the need for sex.

SO much I want to comment on! I DO try desperately hard to hide it from the kids. I praise mommy in front of them and make sure that they see mommy as a hero! There would be no honour in doing differently!
FORGOT TO ADD, I AM ABSOLUTELY, COMPLETELY TERRIFIED OF HER!!!!